So, first read this:
http://amorerising.wordpress.com/2013/06/06/how-to-love-your-ambivert/
Now, go find me someone to illustrate it so it makes sense to others...
Ok, done? Great.
Here's what happened. I was on my couch (about 30 minutes ago) trying to take a nap, but instead crying because I'm going to a concert tonight alone and with a group of people. How is that possible you may ask? Well, I'm going with a group of classmates, one who is a friend, but is extroverted, so immediately forgets I'm there the minute she see's her other friends. The others will just ignore me the whole night because I'm not an extrovert and they are poopy jerkfaces. (Sorry, I still need a nap).
In the midst of trying to nap, but crying instead, I decided to see if there was something online about how to care for someone who wasn't an extrovert OR introvert (Actually I was just going to write my own and then hope someone would illustrate it). When I happened across "Ambiverts". It explains some of my conundrum, but not completely.
I still think this article is missing something that I, and maybe other, Ambiverts are missing, but first a little background:
Currently I am in a nursing program, meaning my schedule changes every 3-4 months, money is an issue, I have to study and miss out on a lot of life, so people forget about you, I'm single.
This is coupled with:
Many of my friends either don't live nearby, or are married, or have kids, or work long hours, and/or work very different hours than I do, or are only available when I'm working and studying.
= Lonely
What this article needs to address, is that it's lonely to be an Ambivert. You ARE adaptable, you ARE accommodating, you ARE a balance of both worlds. But this can lead to difficulty making friends, especially if they fit either of the other two types.
The Extrovert friend already has lots of friends and plans, and you tend to get lost in the mix.
The Introvert friend doesn't want to go out, or wants to go home early.
Don't get me wrong, both can be great friends on different levels. But what do you do until you get to that point?
As an Ambivert I watch as my introverted friends complain about all the fun plans they HAVE to go to on the weekend and my extroverted friends have TOO many plans AND friends to bother to invite me.
It has left me in this frustrating state of doing everything alone, going to Target WAY too much (late at night, to get out of the house) and in a general state of annoyance.
What I really need is a few friends who are available, live nearby, like to go out, can go out, and do go out. I'm not complaining about my other friends, I am very grateful for them. What I'm getting at here, is that as a single, childless, student, I NEED some friends of similar status who go out and do things in my neck of the woods, on a regular basis.
And someone to illustrate this.
Thursday, August 29, 2013
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
I don't have a type, but...
(Warning, this may be the most un-pc blog I ever write...maybe.)
(...see that's the thing with this topic, my bff and I discussed it and apparently when guys like only Asian girls, it has to do with cultural differences, submissive vs. dominant and so forth... And then we got into why Hispanic guys like white girls, and how I work in sushi restaurant with Asian girls and everyone has the hots for them, but the Hispanic kitchen guys have the hots for me, and wow... tangent!) (Whereas in my case its just because their legs are less hairy. The Asian guys, not girls, wait what were we talking about?) (Oh yeah, this entry is about why I'm attracted to Asian guys.)
Why I Am Attracted to Asian Guys
Being an online dater, I recently signed up for a paid site; having been encouraged by others that I would find more legit, relationship-wanting types on there. One of the first things I noticed (besides, "Oh shit, I spent money, shit got real! I better find someone!") was that I was more attracted to the Asian guys on there. Part of it may be that I'm still reeling about the last guy I dated, who was Burmese, and who I thought was the one. But then I shook that off and decided there were other reasons for this sudden realization that I'm attracted to this "type".
Ironically, tonight a few of my friends asked me what my type was (assuming that maybe I was going for the wrong type and should broaden my scope). I have a speech written out for this very question:
"The only thing any of my former boyfriends have in common is that they were male. If you put them in a room together, they probably wouldn't be friends." Oh, and none of them were Asian.
Ok, I dated someone who was half Filipino, half Black (and all gorgeous! Though I had to end things when he played air keyboard way too long at a club).
Anyway, I also was told I need some pictures in my blog, so this is a good excuse...
Reason #1 (sort of in no particular order)
Senor G (names have been changed to protect identity), Senor G was a half Dutch, half Japanese guy in my high school. He was handsome, played piano, sports, super smart, super artistic, super slut. For some reason that Dutch/Japanese combo = gorgeous. I had another female friend in HS with the same combo and what what, gorgeous!
But superman here was a cocky bastard. Still, a stepping stone.
Reason #2
(Now we get to the pictures)
Bruce Lee
Dude, yellow jump suit, ripped body, can we say hot!?!
I had the box set of his movies, and a Bruce Lee shrine in my first apartment. More because it was funny to have a shrine, and I happened to have a Bruce Lee bobble head, but still... hot.
Reason #3
Sulu
Here's where he is defending a woman's honor. Oh, and his facebook presence is hilarious.
#4
Joy Luck Club with Russell Wong
Only to be undone by how hot he is now!
#6
Steven Yeun, Walking Dead
Seriously, once he got rid of the baseball cap, I swooned. Maggie is a lucky fictional character to get to tap that!
#7
John Cho
Need I say more...
#8
Brandon Lee, pre "The Crow"
Yes, that's what he was famous for, but he did movies before that. Go rent them.
Oh, and I just realized "Sea Urchin boy" from my previous posts is a spitting image of him.
#9
Ken Jeong
Dude, funny as hell AND he's a doctor!
#10
Honorable Mentions
Or, I'm really tired so look these guys up yo'self!
Jay Chou, Green Hornet
Toshiro Mifune, legend
Ken Watanabe, Memoirs of a Geisha
Chang Chen, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon
So, I don't know what it is. But it's there.
Of course, when I was in Tokyo, thinking I'd stick out like a sore thumb, not one guy even batted an eye at me.
But, at least it was fun looking at (in my opinion) hot guys to put on my blog.
p.s. Keep your fingers crossed that some 6' hawt Asian guy falls for me online. Or I meet John Cho.
(...see that's the thing with this topic, my bff and I discussed it and apparently when guys like only Asian girls, it has to do with cultural differences, submissive vs. dominant and so forth... And then we got into why Hispanic guys like white girls, and how I work in sushi restaurant with Asian girls and everyone has the hots for them, but the Hispanic kitchen guys have the hots for me, and wow... tangent!) (Whereas in my case its just because their legs are less hairy. The Asian guys, not girls, wait what were we talking about?) (Oh yeah, this entry is about why I'm attracted to Asian guys.)
Why I Am Attracted to Asian Guys
Being an online dater, I recently signed up for a paid site; having been encouraged by others that I would find more legit, relationship-wanting types on there. One of the first things I noticed (besides, "Oh shit, I spent money, shit got real! I better find someone!") was that I was more attracted to the Asian guys on there. Part of it may be that I'm still reeling about the last guy I dated, who was Burmese, and who I thought was the one. But then I shook that off and decided there were other reasons for this sudden realization that I'm attracted to this "type".
Ironically, tonight a few of my friends asked me what my type was (assuming that maybe I was going for the wrong type and should broaden my scope). I have a speech written out for this very question:
"The only thing any of my former boyfriends have in common is that they were male. If you put them in a room together, they probably wouldn't be friends." Oh, and none of them were Asian.
Ok, I dated someone who was half Filipino, half Black (and all gorgeous! Though I had to end things when he played air keyboard way too long at a club).
Anyway, I also was told I need some pictures in my blog, so this is a good excuse...
Reason #1 (sort of in no particular order)
Senor G (names have been changed to protect identity), Senor G was a half Dutch, half Japanese guy in my high school. He was handsome, played piano, sports, super smart, super artistic, super slut. For some reason that Dutch/Japanese combo = gorgeous. I had another female friend in HS with the same combo and what what, gorgeous!
But superman here was a cocky bastard. Still, a stepping stone.
Reason #2
(Now we get to the pictures)
Bruce Lee
I had the box set of his movies, and a Bruce Lee shrine in my first apartment. More because it was funny to have a shrine, and I happened to have a Bruce Lee bobble head, but still... hot.
Reason #3
Sulu
Here's where he is defending a woman's honor. Oh, and his facebook presence is hilarious.
#4
Joy Luck Club with Russell Wong
Seriously, he eats watermelon in this movie, and it one of THE sexiest things I have ever seen. Oh, and he's wearing a suit, but his character is an ass, but who cares because SUIT and WATERMELON!
#5
Mother Fuckin RUFIO!
Bangarang baby!Only to be undone by how hot he is now!
#6
Steven Yeun, Walking Dead
#7
John Cho
Need I say more...
#8
Brandon Lee, pre "The Crow"
Yes, that's what he was famous for, but he did movies before that. Go rent them.
Oh, and I just realized "Sea Urchin boy" from my previous posts is a spitting image of him.
#9
Ken Jeong
Dude, funny as hell AND he's a doctor!
#10
Honorable Mentions
Or, I'm really tired so look these guys up yo'self!
Jay Chou, Green Hornet
Toshiro Mifune, legend
Ken Watanabe, Memoirs of a Geisha
Chang Chen, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon
So, I don't know what it is. But it's there.
Of course, when I was in Tokyo, thinking I'd stick out like a sore thumb, not one guy even batted an eye at me.
But, at least it was fun looking at (in my opinion) hot guys to put on my blog.
p.s. Keep your fingers crossed that some 6' hawt Asian guy falls for me online. Or I meet John Cho.
Sunday, August 11, 2013
Why I NOW like the movie "Bridesmaids"
When I first saw the movie, Bridesmaids, I thought... "Ug, they finally make a movie with all female comedians and they make them all pathetic!" Why can't a movie with all females have them be rich girls with daddy issues like most of the Adam Sandler movies I shamelessly watch (and know word for word). Or where they're the ones who ask the guy to leave in the morning and have no emotional connection for the opposite sex except to use them for their body, until the guy who is their best friend suddenly changes all that? Can we PLEASE redo a romcom with the roles reversed??
Ok, done with that rant, back to the OG point.
I was encouraged to watch it again, by my therapist. She was reminded of the opening scene where Kristen Wiig can't get out of the guy's house, she just slept with, the next morning; after I told her about leaving sea urchin boy's house when my car wouldn't go in reverse.
So, I watched it again. And this time I freakishly connected with the main character, realized how many times I was her and how real this movie was. Brash, blatant, and to the point. She is in so many situations that many of us have been in, and has thus put a mirror up for us to see the truth.
And that truth isn't always pretty.
I too have slept with a guy(s) who thought he was the shit and that I wasn't good enough. They weren't as built, or as handsome as the guy in the film (though the guy in the film quickly looses all handsome points based on his personality). One was actually short, skinny, bald AND super obsessed with his mustache... and thought I wasn't good enough for him, and HE was the one who decided we should stop sleeping together!
Why do we waste our time Kristen Wiig?? We are better then these guys who think they're better than us!
There were a few other moments in the movie that really made sense, but I've forgotten them and now have to watch the movie again to finish this blog (or not) at a later time.
And now I'm also really annoyed by mustaches.
Ok, done with that rant, back to the OG point.
I was encouraged to watch it again, by my therapist. She was reminded of the opening scene where Kristen Wiig can't get out of the guy's house, she just slept with, the next morning; after I told her about leaving sea urchin boy's house when my car wouldn't go in reverse.
So, I watched it again. And this time I freakishly connected with the main character, realized how many times I was her and how real this movie was. Brash, blatant, and to the point. She is in so many situations that many of us have been in, and has thus put a mirror up for us to see the truth.
And that truth isn't always pretty.
I too have slept with a guy(s) who thought he was the shit and that I wasn't good enough. They weren't as built, or as handsome as the guy in the film (though the guy in the film quickly looses all handsome points based on his personality). One was actually short, skinny, bald AND super obsessed with his mustache... and thought I wasn't good enough for him, and HE was the one who decided we should stop sleeping together!
Why do we waste our time Kristen Wiig?? We are better then these guys who think they're better than us!
There were a few other moments in the movie that really made sense, but I've forgotten them and now have to watch the movie again to finish this blog (or not) at a later time.
And now I'm also really annoyed by mustaches.
Sunday, August 4, 2013
So...
You know its been a long time since you've been in a real relationship when the knights at Medieval Times (in Dallas nonetheless) start looking good.
I mean they CAN ride horses AND sword fight...
AND jump off said horses and wield axes and joust and they're tall and
and
and
No?
:(
I mean they CAN ride horses AND sword fight...
AND jump off said horses and wield axes and joust and they're tall and
and
and
No?
:(
Thursday, August 1, 2013
Annoyed pants
Maybe I'm a little tired, so something small and insignificant set me off...
Went to stop by a friend's bday at a bar after a loooong day of gutting my garagelet (think closet + garage, it makes sense in my head). I'm in flip flops, no makeup and I walk into uber-trendy-everybody-dressed-up-on-the-prowel-bar.
Notinthemood.
I want to give my friend her bday/emergency tiara and gtfo.
Instead another friend grabs me, makes me have a gross medicinal tasting gross shot of something gross, and go watch her talk to her friends outside. So I wait a few minutes, then leave, in my annoyed pants.
On the way out, get a text from one of the many guys I dated who decided never to text me again after I thought things were going so well. He's there, saw me. I tell him I'm leaving, and to come outside. I wait. I wait. I leave.
45 minutes later hes texting me. I'm curtailing this quickly. But I wanted to rant a bit (before I cry and watch a Katherine Heigel movie) (yes I'm serious, I told you I was tired!)
Oh, AND I ranted on a public-ish forum too...My okcupid profile. I announced on there that I was deleting my profile soon, and that ya'll should put on your big boy skivvies and let a girl know that you're not interested in a relationship instead of not ever talking to her again. Oh, and also deleted all other stuff about me on there. And am tempted to post a SomEcard on their that's very snarky.
Sigh, stupid dating scene.
Went to stop by a friend's bday at a bar after a loooong day of gutting my garagelet (think closet + garage, it makes sense in my head). I'm in flip flops, no makeup and I walk into uber-trendy-everybody-dressed-up-on-the-prowel-bar.
Notinthemood.
I want to give my friend her bday/emergency tiara and gtfo.
Instead another friend grabs me, makes me have a gross medicinal tasting gross shot of something gross, and go watch her talk to her friends outside. So I wait a few minutes, then leave, in my annoyed pants.
On the way out, get a text from one of the many guys I dated who decided never to text me again after I thought things were going so well. He's there, saw me. I tell him I'm leaving, and to come outside. I wait. I wait. I leave.
45 minutes later hes texting me. I'm curtailing this quickly. But I wanted to rant a bit (before I cry and watch a Katherine Heigel movie) (yes I'm serious, I told you I was tired!)
Oh, AND I ranted on a public-ish forum too...My okcupid profile. I announced on there that I was deleting my profile soon, and that ya'll should put on your big boy skivvies and let a girl know that you're not interested in a relationship instead of not ever talking to her again. Oh, and also deleted all other stuff about me on there. And am tempted to post a SomEcard on their that's very snarky.
Sigh, stupid dating scene.
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